I know they are kind of expensive but one or two of the new high end ASUS boards have the discrete card with X-Fi tech (I think they only do up to EAX 4.0 but that is much better than any onboard that I know of). Sort of saves you a slot too since they are made for the uppermost PCI-E x1 slot. I am not sure if any other PCI-E cards work in that slot. It appears to be a regular slot that is black (most of the others are white) but is seems to have the right spacing to be a normal x1 slot. I personally have always been an AMD fan and some of the xx50 series Phenoms look pretty promising (especially the Black Series) but AMD is still seriously playing catch-up with the Intel Core 2 architecture (I, even though an AMD fan, have a QX6700 and a B3 Q6600 that are plenty powerful). The Asus Maximus II Formula is a good board but is an Intel P45 chipset. Uses DDR2 but doesn't support SLI, it does CrossFireX. Lots of great features on this board (has the X-FI add-on card I was talking about). The new 4870 X2 cards coming out look pretty promising. I will probably use a combination of this board and a 4870 for my HTPC in the near future. Hope that points you in the right direction.
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President Theodore Roosevelt
Speech at the Sorbonne, Paris, April 23, 1910